“Festina Lente"(Make Haste, Slowly)
- Augustus
An area that could use this attention is when you compare yourselves to others. It’s easy to get caught up in the wanting or needing more mindset.
How comparisons can bring you down:
1️⃣ Upward Comparison is when you start to compare yourself to those you think are more successful. It creates feelings of envy and resentment.
2️⃣ Downward Comparison is the act of comparing yourself to those you think are less fortunate or inferior to you in some way. When you do this, you are taking pleasure in others misfortunes and failures in order to feel better about yourself.
3️⃣ These types of comparisons lead to feelings of depression and a loss of connection to others.
Why? Because you are spending time and energy comparing struggles to successes, it’s like comparing apples to oranges.
4️⃣ It can also lead to FOMO (the fear of missing out). The more you compare, the more you fear you are missing out.
Take pride in your accomplishments:
1️⃣ Instead of comparing yourself to others, list your successes and accomplishments to date.
2️⃣ Celebrate your successes.
3️⃣ Remind yourself of how your struggles and sacrifices have paid off.
4️⃣ Take time to forgive yourself for your mistakes as well.
5️⃣ Foster relationships by giving gratitude to those who have helped you along the way.
5️⃣ Connect with others, don’t just socially monitor others on social media, send them a message and talk to them.